学会生活在现实中

学会生活在现实中  Learn to live in the present moment  To a large degree,the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live on the present moment. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, and what may or may not happen tomorrow, the present moment is where you are---always!  我们内心是否平和在很大程度上是由我们是否能生活在现实之中所决定的．不管昨天或去年发生了什么，不管明天可能发生或不发生什么，现实才是你时时刻刻所在之处．  2/Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about variety of things--all at once. We allow past problems and future concerns dominate your present moments, so much so that we end up anxious,frustrated,depressed,and hopeless. On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our stated priorities, and our happiness, often convincing that "someday" will be much better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves so that 'someday' never actually arrives. Jhon Lennone once said, "Life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans." When we are busy making 'other plans', our children are busy growing up, the people we love are moving away and dying, our bodies are getting out of shape, and our dreams are slipping away. In short, we miss out on life.  毫无疑问，我们很多人掌握了一种神经兮兮的艺术，即把生活中的大部分时间花在为种种事情担心忧虑上－－而且常常是同时忧虑许多事情．我们听凭过去的麻烦和未来的担心控制我们此时此刻的生活，以至我们整日焦虑不安，委靡不振，甚至沮丧绝望．而另一方面我们又推迟我们的满足感，推迟我们应优先考虑的事情，推迟我们的幸福感，常常说服自己＂有朝一日＂会比今天更好．不幸的是，如此告戒我们朝前看的大脑动力只能重复来重复去，以至＂有朝一日＂哟贫农公元不会真的来临．约翰．列侬曾经说过：＂生活就是当我们忙于制定别的计划时发生的事．＂当我们忙于指定种种＂别的计划＂时，我们的孩子在忙于长大，我们挚爱的人里去了甚至快去世了，我们的体型变样了，而我们的梦想也在消然溜走了．一句话，我们错过了生活． Understand that life is not a straight line. Life is not a set timeline of milestones.  你应该明白 生活不是一条直线 也不是一个时间轴 You are allowed to backtrack.  You are allowed  to figure out what inspires you. 上面标记了重大事件 你可以选择倒带 你可以停下来想想是什么东西启发着你 You are allowed time, and I think we often forget that. 你还有很多时间 我想常常我们忘记了这一点 01 You ruin your life  by choosing the wrong person. 自毁人生之一 选错了终身伴侣   What is it with our need to  fast-track relationships?  Be alone. Eat alone,  take yourself on dates, sleep alone. 为什么我们觉得 自己需要狂飙突进似的恋爱关系 学着独处。独自进餐 和自己约会，独自入眠  In the midst of this  you will learn about yourself.  在这个过程中 你会明白自己是什么样的人 You will grow,  you will figure out what inspires you,  你会有所成长 了解到在人生道路上 启发着你的究竟是什么 you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity,  你将掌控自己的梦想 坚定自己的信仰 理清自己的思路 and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance,  you will be sure of it,  because you are sure of yourself. 如此一来 当你遇到那个让你坠入爱河的人的时候 你能够确信他(她)就是那个人 因为你确知你是什么人   02 You ruin your life  by letting your past govern it. 自毁人生之二 纵容你的过去操控自己   It is common for certain things in life  to happen to you.  There will be heartbreak,  confusion days where you feel like you aren’t special or purposeful.  人生不如意十九，这是很自然的事情 你可能会心碎 会迷茫 会觉得自己毫无过人之处 觉得自己活得毫无目的 You cannot let these define you. If you don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was felt,  别让这些不如意的过往限定自己 如果你不能从过去里走出来 从过去的感受里超脱 you will look at your future with that lens, and nothing will be able to breach that judgment. 你就会带着过去的眼光 看待自己的未来 那么所有事情无一例外 都会受这种偏见的影响 03 You ruin your life  when you compare yourself to others. 自毁人生之三：比附他人   We get caught up  in what our friends are liking,  who our significant others are following,  and at the end of the day  this not only ruins our lives, but it also ruins us. 我们常常为了他人的偏好桎梏自己 我们的朋友们喜欢什么 我们的恋人在追求什么 如此一来 不仅会把我们的生活弄得一团糟 也把我们的关系弄得一团糟   04 You ruin your life  by tolerating it. 自毁人生之四： 一味忍耐 At the end of the day  you should be excited to be alive.  最重要的是 你应该为活着而感到欢欣 When you settle for anything  less than what you innately desire,  you destroy the possibility that lives inside of you.  如果你不去追求内心渴望的东西 而是得过且过 你就丧失了 让自己内心的想法实现的机会 Life and work, and life and love,  are not irrespective of each other.  They are intrinsically linked.  生活与工作，生活与爱情 它们并不是不相干的 它们之间都有着内在的联系 We have to strive to  do extraordinary work,  we have to strive to  find extraordinary love.  我们必须努力把工作干得棒棒的 努力把情感经营得棒棒的 Only then will we tap into  an extraordinarily blissful life. 只有这样 我们才能获得 美好的，幸福的生活