Sometimes, It Is Good To Be Alone
“It is necessary for me, sometimes, to just be alone and quiet and doing nothing.” Charles Bukowski, one of my favorite poets, once wrote this.
“有时候,我必须独自一人,只是安静地呆着,不做任何事。”我最喜爱的诗人之一,Charles Bukowski曾写过这样的文章。
I went on a walk today, by myself. I’ve come to learn that it is healthy to be alone at times. It is also freeing: for the mind, for the heart, and for the soul. Just like you spend time with the people you love, you have to spend time with yourself. You can’t always do that when you are around others. At times, your heartbeat can drown in the noise and you can’t hear what your heart is saying to you. Likewise, your mind can be preoccupied and too chaotic to the point that you can’t understand your thoughts.
我今天出去散步,就我自己。我了解到,有时孤独是健康的,它也是自由的:对你的思维而言,对你的心灵和灵魂而言。就像你花时间在你爱的人身上,你也要花时间与自己相处。当你身处人群之中,你无法这样做,你的心跳声可能会淹没在嘈杂的噪音里,你无法听见你的心在与你对话。同样,你的思维可能被混乱所占据,而使你无法了解自己内心的想法。
It is important to learn how to be alone. During the time that I spent alone on the walk, I reflected on some things that I had placed in the back of my mind. Doing that can place a burden on you. You have no idea how much burying things in the back of your mind can subconsciously affect you. You need to listen to yourself.
学习如何独处是很重要的。当我独自一人散步,我会仔细思考那些我放在心底的东西,这样做或许会给你带来负担,但你不会知道,这些潜藏在心底的东西是如何潜移默化地影响着你,你要倾听你自己。
Introspection is important. It is essential to observe your own emotional processes. Self-awareness is important. You need to look inside of you in order to learn more about you. If you can’t do that, then it will be extremely hard to be in touch with your soul. And, you need your soul as much as your soul needs you.
自省很重要,观察自己的情绪历程很重要,自我意识也是至关重要的。你需要多看看自己的内心世界,这样你才能更了解自己。如果你做不到,那么你将很难与自己的灵魂相连接。而你需要你的灵魂,就像你的灵魂需要你一样。
Are you your own friend?
你是自己的朋友吗?
This is an important question to ask yourself. Make yourself the person who you would want to become best friends with. Don’t stop learning about yourself. There are always so many undiscovered places. You are like the ocean, with depths greater than you can imagine. You will never fully learn about yourself. But, you can keep discovering layers and layers.
这是一个你要扪心自问的重要课题。 让自己成为那个你想与之交朋友的人。不要停止了解你自己,总有许多还未被发掘的地方。你就像海洋,比你想象的深度还要深。你永远不会完全了解你自己,但是,你可以一层一层地挖掘自己。
Go on walks alone. Sit in silence. Listen to music that calms you. Do something, anything, that makes you feel at peace with yourself. Do something that allows you to learn more about who you are. Be your own friend. Go ahead, be alone. You need it…sometimes.
独自散步,沉默静坐,听些让你平静的音乐,做些让你觉得平静、让你能更了解自己的事。做自己的朋友。继续前行,独自一人。有时,你需要它……
纪伯伦曾说“孤独,是忧愁的伴侣,也是精神活动的密友。” 孤独就像发烧一样,尽管使人不愉快,但它的存在仍然有意义。它使我们抑郁忧愁,与此同时,也会让我们远离喧闹,保护自己不过分的受到外界的侵扰。它既能引发抑郁但同时也会让我们远离伤害,它的力量以及潜能比起我们以前所知的更加强大。