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主播:Michelle
编辑:王菊
Hello！Campus radio service also meet with everyone. Today is a new day. I hope each student who listen to our radio has a good mood to face the work and study.I want to share a story for you.It might make you happy. And now please listen to today's broadcast content.
其实在一段感情里，难免会有一方依赖另一方，适度的依赖是甜蜜的表现，但是过度依赖，则是感情的禁忌，那么对于被依赖的一方如果过度“放纵”对方依赖，也会导致感情畸形发展。
In a healthy relationship, both partners depend on each other equally for love, emotional support and encouragement.
一段健康的感情，情侣应从对方身上的得到同样多的爱、情感支持以及鼓励。
A codependent relationship, by contrast, is one-sided. It’s a dysfunctional dynamic in which one partner disproportionately gives and sacrifices their own wants and needs to please and clean up the mess of the other partner, who often behaves recklessly and rarely offers support in return.
相反，情感依赖是不公平的。这是一份失衡的感情，一方过多付出、牺牲自己想要的、需要的东西，以取悦另一半。清理对方鲁莽行为留下的烂摊子。而另一半则很少为自己提供帮助。
Shawn Burn, a psychology professor at California Polytechnic State University, explains that in a codependent relationship, “much of the love and intimacy in the relationship is experienced in the context of one person's distress and the other's rescuing.”
肖恩·伯恩是加州理工州立大学的心理学教授。他解释，在情感依赖中，“一方有所苦恼，而另一放帮助解决或者提供支持，从中可以感受到彼此的爱。”
“The helper shows love primarily through the provision of assistance and the other feels loved primarily when they receive assistance,” she added. “The intense shared experiences of the other’s struggles and disasters and the helper's rescues deepen the emotional connection and feelings of intimacy.”
她还说道，“提供帮助的一方主要从提供支持中表现自己的爱，而另一方则主要在接受帮助时感受爱。为另一半分担忧愁和痛苦、解决烦恼，这可以加深彼此的情感连接和亲密感。
You're quick to say “yes” to your partner without pausing to consider how you feel.
你毫不犹豫地给你的另一半说“好”，不会思考自己的感觉。
“You have a right to take care of yourself in relationships by setting boundaries— finding the inner strength to say ‘no’ or ‘I'm not sure' if something doesn't resonate for you or if you need more time to consider your partner's request.”
在一段感情中，你有权为自己划清底线，照顾自己的感受——找到你内心的力量，对你的另一半说“不”或者“我不确定你是否也是这么想的，你是否需要更多的时间考虑你的另一半的要求。”
You frequently make excuses or compensate for your partner's bad behavior.
你频繁地找借口或是为你的另一半收拾烂摊子。
“For instance, ignoring someone's drinking or making excuses for them to your friends is likely a sign that you aren't seeing things clearly in your relationship because boundaries have become blurred.”
“例如，忽略某人喝酒的行为，给你的朋友频繁的解释。这可能就是因为你没有清晰界定你们之间事情，你的底线太过模糊。”
Your partner's happiness becomes your top priority.
你的另一半是否开心？这件事情对你来说比任何事情最重要的。
“Such a relationship is truly toxic to the individual's development, and ultimately their happiness. The codependent individual can't help but continue to try to please the person they're enabling because that person's acceptance of them has become their highest priority.”
“这种关系对于个人的发展是十分不利的，最后也会导致彼此不开心。被依赖一方也没有办法，只能继续取悦对方，因为对方能够接纳自己已经是最重要的事情了。”
一段健康的感情可以让双方感到快乐，且能够共同成长，那么失败的感情会让双方身心俱疲，两败俱伤。如何让一段感情良性发展，那就一定要避免今天我们所讨论的这些，在一段感情里既不是一味付出，也不是一味索取。这样的感情才能长久。
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