做最好的自己

Learn to accept who you are. It's one of the hardest things to follow through on, but it's definitely most rewarding. It's so easy to look in the mirror and point out most of your insecurities. But, instead of counting all the things you wish you could be, try counting all the things that you are thankful for that bring out your natural beauty. Understand everyone has beauty, whether it be their eyes, their plumped lips, or their rosy cheeks. Make a list of all of these things, and hang it up somewhere by a mirror, and before you leave, look in the mirror and tell yourself you look good. Remember that it's your own opinion that really counts. Realize your imperfections and then let go. Are you too bossy? Are you too critical of yourself? You're lazy, right? You don't have a lot of friends because your shy? This could go on and on, but the point is is that you need to find out what you aren't so good at, maybe what you don't have, and then let go of it. This is one of the most key steps to accept who you are. Be honest with yourself. This is one of the hardest things for many of us to do. In many of todays societies that focus on the individual, we are encouraged to strive for success, and often we look for praise as the acknowledgment of that success. We take any criticism as a negative thing, so we shy away from seeing anything about ourselves that elicits that reaction. Remember that you can't fix it until you can admit there is a problem. Recognize ineffective coping mechanisms. If you are experiencing any of the feelings described in the introduction, odds are that what you are doing to cope with the problems in life are not working. These things may have worked in the past, and are so ingrained that you don't even realize you do them. Replace the old methods you used to deal with situations and problems with ones that will deliver or elicit positive responses and solutions. Changing old behaviors can be just as difficult as recognizing them because it takes time and determination to replace old habits and behaviors, but the payoff is worth it. Make a short list. Once you have accepted yourself, with all your imperfections, you can change some things about yourself. Write out a list about what you want to achieve, what you can achieve, and how you will achieve it. Although, understand that no one is perfect, and sometimes you just can't change who you are. Don't try to alter several things at once, this is a recipe for failure. Once you have your list, prioritize it. Decide what you need to work on in order of importance. Often changing one thing will cause other things to fall in line, like knocking over dominoes. Avoid the common "Do-overs" It's your life and your reality. What happened in the past, happened in the past. You just can't change history. So avoid doing it over again because you feel like it's "in your comfort zone" and "you've been through it once, why not one more time?" type of excuse. Learn that life is the way it is. You can only make it hard if your attitudes about life are pointed that way. You can't change who you really are either. Just be the best you can be, and live life with pride. 学习接受自己。这是一个艰难的过程，却是必须的过程。你可以站着穿衣镜前细数自己所有的不足，你也可以试着找出自己的长处。要明白，每个人都是美的，有的是眼睛，有的是嘴唇，有的是面颊，离开家门的时候，站在镜子面前告诉自己，你是最美的。事实上，你自己的想法最重要 了解并看轻自己的短处。你是不是很专横？是不是对自己要求很严格？或者很懒，很害羞，所以没有很多朋友？你可以数出很多，但是你要做的是不要过度在意自己的短处 诚实面对自己。这是正确认识自己中最艰难的部分。现在的社会竞争激烈，每个人都渴望被肯定，都希望成功。所以我们常常不敢面对自己所谓的弱势 记住只有你正视自己的毛病，才可能更正 万事不要抱着应付的态度。消极应付的态度一旦根深蒂固，很多时候你甚至不清楚自己在做什么 列一个小单子。当你已经接受自己的不足后，可以想想哪些你想做的，你可以做的，记住没有人是完美的，有些事也是天生的 改变旧习是很繁琐的，需要坚定的决心和长久的努力，但是坚持下来，你会得到绝对的报酬 不要急于一时，功亏一篑。当你定好自己想做的事情后，分清主次，一件事的成功可以引起其他的相应事情的成功 不要重蹈覆辙。你的生活是属于你自己的。发生的就是发生了，你无法改变历史。不要重蹈覆辙 顺其自然。生活的道路某种程度上有自己的定义，你无法改变你的秉性，你要做的只是做最好的自己