《论语》季氏篇4

Confucius said, "There are three friendships which are advantageous, and three which are injurious. Friendship with the uplight; friendship with the sincere; and friendship with the man of much observation; these are advantageous. Friendship with the man of specious airs; 孔子曰：“益者三友，损者三友。友直；友谅；友多闻；益矣。友便辟； friendship with the insinuatingly soft; and friendship with the glib-tongued; these are injurious." Confucius said, "There are three things men find enjoyment in which are advantageous, and three things they find enjoyment in which are injurious. 友善柔；友便佞；损矣。”孔子曰：“益者三乐，损者三乐。 To find enjoyment in the discriminating study of ceremonies and music; to find enjoyment in speaking of the goodness of others; to find enjoyment in having many worthy friends; these are advantageous. To find enjoyment in extravagant pleasures; 乐节礼乐；乐道人之善；乐多贤友；益矣。乐骄乐； to find enjoyment in idleness and sauntering; to find enjoyment in the pleasures of feasting: these are injurious." Confucius said, "There are three errors to which they who stand in the presence of a man of virtue and station are liable. 乐佚游；乐宴乐；损矣。”孔子曰：“侍于君子有三愆。 They may speak when it does not come to them to speak; this is called rashness. They may not speak when it comes to them to speak; this is called concealment. They may speak without looking at the countenance of their superior; this is called blindness." 言未及之而言谓之躁。言及之而不言谓之隐。未见颜色而言谓之瞽。”