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Be brave and be loved In other words, we’re raising our girls to be perfect, and we’re raising our boys to be brave. Some people worry about our federal deficit. But I, I worry about our bravery deficit. Our economy, our society, we’re just losing out. Because we're not raising our girls to be brave. The bravery deficit is why women are underrepresented in STEM (Science、Technology、Engineering 、Mathematics), in C-suites, in boardrooms, in Congress, and pretty much everywhere you look. In the 1980s, psychologist Carol Dweck looked at how bright fifth graders handled an assignment that was too difficult for them. She found that bright girls were quick to give up. The higher the IQ (intelligence quotient), the more likely they were to give up. Bright boys, on the other hand, found the difficult material to be a challenge. They found it energizing. They were more likely to redouble their efforts. What’s going on? Well, at the fifth grade level, girls routinely outperform boys in every subject, including math and science, so it’s not a question of ability. The difference is in how boys and girls approach a challenge. And it doesn’t just end in fifth grade. An HP report found that men will apply for a job, if they meet only sixty percent of the qualifications. But women? Women will apply only if they meet a hundred percent of the qualifications. A hundred percent. This study is usually invoked as evidence that, well, women need a little more confidence. But I think it’s evidence that women have been socialized to aspire to perfection, and they’re overly cautious. And even when we’re ambitious, even when we’re leaning in, that socialization of perfection has caused us to take less risks in our careers. And so those 600,000 jobs that are open right now, in computing and tech, women are being left behind. And it means our economy is being left behind on all the innovation and problems women would solve, if they were socialized to be brave, instead of socialized to be perfect. 【参考译文】 换句话说，我们会把女孩们培养得完美，把男孩们培养得勇敢。有些人担心我们的联邦赤字。而我，我担心地是我们的勇敢赤字。我们的经济、社会，我们正在经历失败。因为我们没有把女孩们培养成勇敢的人。 勇气不足是STEM项目（科学、技术、工程、数学）中女性人数不足的原因，还有在高管层、董事会、国会，以及你能看到的几乎所有地方，女性人数都不足。 上世纪80年代，心理学家卡罗尔•德维克研究了，聪明的五年级学生是如何处理一项对他们来说很困难的任务。她发现聪明的女孩很快就放弃了。智商越高，她们放弃的可能性就越大。另一方面，聪明的男孩发现困难的事情是一种挑战。他们发现这些困难充满挑战。他们更有可能加倍努力。 这是怎么回事？ 在五年级的时候，女孩通常在每一门课上都比男孩优秀，包括数学和科学，所以这不是一个能力问题。不同之处在于男孩和女孩如何迎接挑战。而且这个问题不仅存在于五年级。惠普的一份报告发现，如果男性只满足60%的条件，他们就会申请面试。但女性呢？女性只有在完全符合条件的情况下才会申请面试。100%。 这项研究通常被用作女性需要更多自信的证据。但我认为这表明女性已经被社会化成了渴望完美的人，她们过于谨慎了。即使我们雄心勃勃，即使我们努力，但社会化的完美导向导致我们在职业生涯中愿意承担的风险更少。因此，现在开放的60万个在计算和技术领域的工作岗位人选，女性都被抛之于脑后。这意味着我们的经济，比女性能够解决的所有创新问题，都要落后，前提是她们被社会化成勇敢的人，而非完美的人。