EMF9.5The Child of Divorce💔

My heart is broken every time I have to give up a parent. My sense of security is lost. Please don't assume that I am resilient. Please don't assume that my life will be exactly as it was and that I will continue to feel the same love from both of you. I need love, attention, nurturing, stability, consistency, affection, understanding, patience and mostly to be wanted. When you fight over me or put me in the middle of your argument, you are sending me the message that winning with each other is more important than my life. I am learning from you that it is better to be right than to be loved. You are teaching me that I came from a person who is unlovable and wrong, and that I am somehow wrong, too. Someday this initial shock will wear off, but how you choose to parent me through this crisis will never wear off. I will either feel your sense of selflessness, support and protection, or I will have a scar on my heart with a message that reads, "Good things happen to good people. I must be bad." 每次我不得不放弃父母中的一个的时候，我都很心痛。我没有了安全感。请不要以为我适应力很强。请不要以为我的生活会和以前一样，会继续感受到你们同样的爱。我需要爱、关注、呵护、稳定、一致、喜爱、理解、耐心，最重要的是被需要。当你们为我而争吵，或者把我置身于你们的争论之中，你们正在向我传递这样一个信息——赢了彼此比我的生活更重要。 我从你们身上学到了——对的人要比爱你的人好。你们告知我，我是一个不讨人喜欢的、错的人生下来的，并且在某种程度上我是一个错误。总有一天，最初的打击会逐渐消失，但在这次艰难时期你们选择如何抚养我的方式将永远不会消失。我要么感受你们的无私、支持和保护，要么我心里会留下一道疤痕，上面写着“好的事情会发生在好人身上，我一定不是好人”。