Being refused is not your problem 被拒绝不是你的错

When others reject you, it doesn't mean that you are not good; Similarly when others agree with you, it doesn't either mean that you are right. The conclusion always alters with the view, different views produce different conclusions. 当别人不拒绝你时，不代表你不好；同样当别人同意你时，也不代表你是好的。结论总是随角度变，不同的角度产生不同的结论。 Therefore, don't be upset when others reject or don't understand you, even your family or best friends, they just have different views, which doesn't really mean that it's your fault. Taking whatever rejections as results caused by different views is a good way to avoid negative moods caused by those blames. 因此，当别人不理解你的时不要感到难过，即使是最好的朋友或是恋人，只是他们的角度不一样罢了，并不真正意味着是你的问题。把任何的拒绝当做是不同角度引起的结果，这有助于避免产生消极情绪。 When your boss refuses your request, it doesn't really mean that your request is unreasonable or you demand too much, perhaps your boss has other considerations, reviewing your behaviors for a time, or balancing yours with others', you don't need to fuss yourself. 当你的上司拒绝你的请求时，并不真正意味着你的请求是不合情理的，或你要求太多，或许你的上司有其他的考虑呢，比如观察你一段时间，或是权衡你与其他人的需求，你不要因此自扰。 When your lover refuses your care and love, it doesn't really mean that your care and love are useless, perhaps your lover isn't in a good mood now, or bothered by some troubles, you don't need to fuss yourself. 当你的爱人拒绝你的关爱时，并不真正意味着你的关爱是无用的，或许你的爱人现在不在状态，或是在烦恼其他事情，你不要因此自扰。 When your customers refuse your products, it doesn't really mean that your products are defective, perhaps your customers don't need them at present, or whose prices are beyond their expectations, you don't need to fuss yourself. 当你的客户拒绝你的产品时，并不真正意味着你的产品有瑕疵，或许你的客户目前不需要它们，或是产品的价格超出他们的预期，你不要因此自扰。 When others refuse your proposals, it doesn't really mean that your proposals are redundant, perhaps others just collect different proposals, or your proposals are already proposed, you don't need to fuss yourself. 当其他人拒绝你的提议时，并不真正意味着你的提议是多余的，或许他们只是收集不同的提议，或是别人已经提议过了，你不要因此自扰。 Being refused by others doesn't really mean that you're not good, sometimes others have their own considerations or have their own problems. Don't fear rejections because it doesn't really mean something; It only explains that others are not n the same frequency with others in some things, even if it does. 被其他人拒绝并不真正意味着是你的问题，有时他人有自己的考虑，或是他们自己也存在问题。不要惧怕拒绝，因为它真不是那么回事；即使是那么回事，也只证明在一些事情上其他人不与你在同一个频道上。