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非常感谢热心听众【Maggie-吕欣欣】对本文稿的贡献
The Spring Festival is around the corner. An old question that has been brought up again for many couples is whose home should they go back for Spring Festival?
春节就要到了，对于很多夫妻和情侣来说，一个老问题又摆在了眼前。春节到底应该回谁家过年呢？
Heyang: So going home for Spring Festival or the Chinese New Year, that’s the most important moment for family reunion in China. Why is it sometimes a little bit of a difficult question to take the answer for couples?
Sam: For first of all, I think on this topic, me, Heyang and Luo Yu are probably the three most unqualified people to talk about it, because I’m the lonely “老外 that can’t go back to England because it’s too far and it would be too much effort for the sake of the week. And you guys are both from Beijing right, which means you don’t travel on
Chinese New Eve anyway.
Heyang: Oh Sam I can’t believe that you didn’t pick up that very important piece of information about Luo Yu because you guys are good friends. Luo Yu is not from Beijing.
Sam: Really? Where are you from, Luo Yu?
Luo Yu: I was born in Xinjiang and raised in Xinjiang as well.
Heyang: [We should pretty much…talks about everything on the show.]
Sam: Xinjiang Uygur Autonomous Region?
Luo Yu: You’re joking.
Sam: I’m not joking. You have a thick Beijing accent.
Luo Yu: Are you my best friend, Sam?
Sam: But you’ve got a thick Beijing accent when you speak.
Luo Yu: No, I don’t have a thick Beijing accent. Heyang does.
Heyang: It’s hardly thick, Luo Yu. Mine, well, a little bit. Yes, I was hoping that you wouldn’t highlight this fact.
Sam: From Beijing [I’m actually about that?](Luo Yu: But even…)
Heyang: Yes, Luo Yu, you’re gonna say?
Luo Yu: But even speaking of which, I think Sam hasn’t highlighted the right thing.
Heyang: I thought we were in the same camp (Luo Yu: We are.), the singleton’s camp. So stop, you know, highlighting that fact. Well, now the cat is out of the bag, let’s just talk about it then. You haven’t answered the question for me. Why is it a bit of a big deal and a hard decision for couples?
Luo Yu: So well Heyang and me don’t have this current question because we are both single and fabulous【注：Single and Fabulous化用《欲望都市》S02E04 即“单身贵族” 呼应赫扬的’the singleton’s camp’】. But when you are happily involved in a lot of family affairs with your lovely spouse, you have to decide this very important issue. Is it your mother’s house or your husband’s mother’s house to visit?
Heyang: For the Spring Festival.
Sam: So let me give a couple of details other way here. First of all, Luo Yu, you were just on a really big TV show where you meet that special someone so we have a chat coming later on today (Heyang: Oh, dear). And secondly, am I right in saying that in china there’s a tradition here of the girls usually going back to the boy’s house as a sign of respect and if the guy doesn’t take the girl home and has to go to the girl’s house, it kind of demoralizes to a certain extent. Is that right?
Heyang: Well usually I think the tradition is, especially if you’re married, then it’s usually the wife would go to the husband’s mom’s home to celebrate the Chinese New Year.
Luo Yu: Yes, as the society has been evolving all the time, I think both husband and wife have become breadwinners of the family. So I think they have been quarreling about this case.
Heyang: Why does earning money, been financially independent have anything to do with quarreling about who should go to whoever’s house? (Sam: Wait)
Luo Yu: Because traditionally we think ‘嫁鸡随鸡 嫁狗随狗’, given that you don’t have financial independence. You are not the breadwinner. Now as the wife, you are financially independent and you can also make the right choice to visit your family first. (Sam: That’s quite bad.)
Heyang: Oh my, that’s a little…What he said is going to start more wars at home and that’s exactly what we don’t want to happen.
Sam: I’ve got…I have a few more questions. So let’s just say for example…You’re from Xinjiang right (Luo Yu: Right). Heyang’s from Beijing. Let’s say you two are dating (Heyang: Stop using people in this studio as example). So Heyang and Luo Yu are dating and they both work in Shanghai (Heyang: Oh dear what?) Is it a tour possible for you to get your parents to go from Xinjiang to Shanghai and you get your parents to go from Beijing to Shanghai? And they then just all meet where you guys reside and then everyone’s happy.
Heyang: That’s too beautiful a picture. I don’t want to imagine. (Sam: But is that possible?)What do you want to say, Luo Yu?
Luo Yu: First you have to have a very big mansion to occupy those four parents.
Sam: We stay in a hotel. Everyone live in Shanghai. So it’s gonna be…Everyone…
Luo Yu: That’s really a pathetic picture. You invite both of the parents coming from Xinjiang and Beijing to Shanghai, then you settle them down in a hotel?
Sam: Ok I got a second option. I got a second option. Heyang and her parents, Luo Yu and his parents all buy plane tickets and they go on holidays to Thailand or Sanya. Will that work?
Luo Yu: That’s…What do you say, Heyang? I agree with his idea.
Heyang: I don’t agree with this idea (Luo Yu: Why?! Sam: I can see you are thinking about it Luo Yu.)
Heyang: No he’s not, not like I can read his mind but no, he’s not and…(Sam: You guys are really in sync. Couple sync) And I’m in sync with you too, you know, this is Round Table. (Sam: It’s different but yeah) Okay okay, let’s get back on track. I think that is one suggestion that makes sense that these days if you have the financial means, you don’t have to have the big mansion, but you need to have a place for two set of parents to come together I think that’s really nice if you can afford that because these days a lot of us are the single child, the only child of your family. So I would hate it that one day if I get married to someone and I would have to leave my parents at home on this special day. What do you think, Luo Yu?
Luo Yu: So my advice is quite simple: Earn as much money as you can and bring your four parents. You go to Maldives, go to Thailand Phuket, go to Saipan, go to all those beautiful resorts on beautiful islands.
Sam: Sounds really nice. Heyang you are a lucky girl.
Heyang: It has nothing to do with me. And if it was two people who go on holiday because they’re good friends, it should be Luo Yu and Sam.
