介绍:
The "Hundreds of Taboos in Life" series is not the first time Liu has dedicated his works to her daughter.
More than 10 years ago, his book "Growing Is a Beautiful Pain", contained gentle instructions for how a girl might discover and cherish the good in life, as well as exhortations on independence and self-reliance.
Daddy's girl will one day grow up and wriggle out of her parents' arms.
Liu wrote "Hundreds of Taboos in Life" when his daughter graduated from university.
"When my little girl graduated from Columbia University, she told us, 'I don't want to search for jobs now. I want to travel.' I asked her, 'Where are you going?' She said, 'Europe.' I asked, 'With whom?' She said, 'me alone.' Then she named a lot of countries that she wanted to travel to. I was very nervous. But I couldn't stop her. So I decided to write something to her."
The first book in the series sheds light on the taboos that Liu wanted to warn young people just stepping into society about, while the second one goes into deeper issues such as marriage and parenting.
"I think each person is like a pocket. You can't always put love into it because it will burst if too full. You need to take something out first. One example of spoiling is when you don't give your child any chance to repay you and show their love to you."
Liu says many of his thoughts on life were influenced by his father.
"One major influence in my life is my father. He died when I was 9 years old. But many of his words continue to influence my actions today."
In Liu's book, the author uses simple language and daily trifles to help readers explore the truths of life.
For example, in the section titled "don't hurt each other's self-esteem", Liu wrote,
"In the world, the things that hurt our self-esteem are the things we are most likely to remember. It can be a gesture, a look in the eye, or a careless word.
For example, once, a mother and daughter came to me for consultation after a quarrel. The daughter cried, 'One day my classmate gave me a cake and I brought it home. My mom unexpectedly threw it at me, yelling, 'Eat, eat, you will become as fat as a pig.'
The mother argued that, 'My daughter eats too much and she is obese, which makes me feel ashamed when facing my neighbors. I love her, so I ask her to eat less.'
I said to the angry mother, 'You feel ashamed because your daughter makes you lose your face but have you ever thought about how what you said to her would hurt her self-esteem?'
Verbal abuse often occurs between family members. People always say the harshest words to their loved ones. The more you love them, the harsher the words are.
When we are with our family members, friends and even strangers, why can't we pay attention to every word we are going to say and every move we are going to make?
Hundreds of taboos in Life”Don't hurt the self-esteem of others."
Since the size of Chinese families has shrunk so markedly over the past few decades, many young Chinese people today have far fewer social connections.
Liu Yong's books serve to complement, rather than confront, the lessons provided by traditional education.
Now, let's share another taboo Liu mentions in his book-Don't lie.
"We can approach the subject of lies from two angles. On the one hand, you shouldn't lie; on the other hand, you should also not push others to lie. The latter maybe requires more effort.
For example, let's say a husband is always working overtime. One day, he came home late again. The wife asked, 'Did you work overtime again?' The husband said, 'No. I just chatted with several colleagues and forgot about the time.' Should the wife get angry about that? No. Instead of being angry, she should feel happy. Today your husband is honest with you. But if he was being henpecked, do you think he would tell you the truth?"
Such instructions aimed at uncovering the truths of life are not necessarily limited to the young. Not everyone would agree with Liu Yong's views, but readers can come to their own conclusions through reading his works.
For studio+, I am Zhang Ru.
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