As Ernest Hemingway noted The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are stronger in the broken places. But my question is why isn't everyone. To me it comes down to the strategies that you use. There really isn't anything objectively good or bad, there isn't anything that happens to you that can't be overcome, there isn't anything that could happen to you, anything that when you turn inward, you can't find a reason to overcome, you can't find a way to put thoes pieces back together, and that becomes your job, it becomes literally up to you, whether you're going to sit and wallow and woe is me, Because what happened, happened, and there's no way to take it back. But how you respond, what you bring to that table, whether you meet fire with fire, whether you meet that adversity with falling apart becoming weaker in the areas that broke or you bind them and mend them and it becomes like a weld that literally makes you stronger is a choice. And it's a choice only you get to make. But as Stephen Hawking said, when you complain, nobody wants to help you. There are many things in your life, you have every reason to complain about, you have every reason to be upset by the things that happened to you. The most sinister thing about excuses is they're valid.