Breathe A Sigh Of Relief. It’s Okay To Be Ordinary
人生最需要勇气的事:接受自己的普通
We're told that an ordinary life is a boring life. To live life fully, we need to do something different, something special. We need to stand out from the crowd and be someone memorable.
The problem with this way of thinking that, by definition, we can't all be extraordinary. If we all did something extraordinary, it wouldn't be extraordinary any more. Therefore the vast majority of us are "doomed" to live completely ordinary lives.
Why we should stop trying to be extraordinary
1. Ordinary doesn't have to be boring
Even the daily routine doesn't have to be boring. The "9 to 5" is only mundane when we aren't experiencing any growth or progression.
The irony of trying to live an extraordinary life is that it's actually the ordinary things that make us happiest. If we find meaningful work, cultivate close relationships and develop our skills, this can create a deeply fulfilling life, even if it isn't "special." We don't have to do something different to everyone else in order to have a good life.
2. An extraordinary life doesn't stay extraordinary for long
If we try to have an extraordinary life, how do we keep it extraordinary? Human beings are incredibly good at adapting to new circumstances, which works against us when we seek novelty. Even the most exciting adventures soon become the new normal.
3. We don't need to be special to find meaning
Many of us feel that a meaningful life has to be an extraordinary life. However, meaning and ordinary are not mutually exclusive concepts. We do not have to do anything special to live a purposeful life. We need to feel that we are making a difference, but that difference doesn't have to be on a grand scale.
4. We don't need to be the best, we just need to get better
Closely linked to our desire to be special is our desire to be the best. We feel that we won't be noticed or appreciated unless we are better than everyone else. Our culture encourages us to constantly pitch ourselves against others in a bid to "win" some competition or another. The truth is that we don't need to be the best anything. We just need to always be getting better.