第176期：终于一天，我们会好好的

想成为我们的主播，欢迎加微信 xdfbook 投稿。 一段美文，一首英文歌，或是一点生活感想，全由你做主。 《终于一天，我们会好好的》 Hey, It's OK ... If You Don't Always Get Along with Your Parents If you often have the feeling that your parents just don't understand, you're not alone. Fighting and disagreeing with Mom and Dad is almost as universal a high school experience as hating gym class. And unfortunately, having a love-hate relationship with your parents—you love when they're there for you when you're sad, and you hate when they ground1) you for something completely unreasonable—can add to your anxiety levels and make being at home more stressful. Although there's no magic formula2) for having a totally stress-free relationship with your parents, there are a few things to keep in mind when you start getting worked up3) about your latest argument with Mom or Dad. Instead of cursing the fact that you weren't born into a different family, read the list below for five reasons not to worry about your less-than-perfect family dynamic4)—and remind yourself that your parents might not be as bad as you think. You're starting to figure out who you are—independently of your parents. Finding your own identity5) is the whole point of being a teenager, and it's inevitably going to cause some friction between you and your parents. You're changing all the time—discovering new interests, going through major milestones and finding out what's really important to you in life—and a big part of that change is starting to branch6) away from your parents and become more independent. And while you're pulling away, your parents are holding on to the child they love; of course there's tension! Remembering that it's all a part of the growing-up process can help you to not blow things out of proportion Your parents just want what's best for you ... Even if it doesn't seem like it. You may hate when your parents pressure you to get good grades or ground you for breaking curfew8), but try to remember where they're coming from. It's their job to protect you and try to ensure your happiness. Ultimately, they just want what's best for you—but that doesn't mean you won't disagree about what exactly that is! Your relationship will eventually change. When you're in your teen years, a lot of things are changing. But fortunately, once you leave for college or begin your adult life, things should smooth over. When you've gotten through the tough stuff of navigating9) the transition from childhood dependence on your parents to adult independence, you may be able to enjoy a totally new kind of relationship with them. Your parents get what you're going through more than you might think. No matter how uncool they are now (don't worry—we all have embarrassing parents), your folks were teenagers once too—and they went through a lot of the same ups and downs that you're going through right now. They get it, and they're just trying to help you get through the roller coaster10) that is high school as painlessly as possible, even if their efforts are misguided. At the end of the day, they'll always be your family. And family means nobody gets left behind, or forgotten. You may not appreciate your parents all the time, but try not to forget that they're the ones who will always be there for you. Trust us—they really do love you. 如果你常常觉得父母就是不理解自己，那你并不孤单。对于高中生而言，与爸爸妈妈吵架、意见不合的这种经历几乎跟讨厌上体育课一样普遍。你和父母之间就是这样一种爱恨交织的关系：当你难过时，他们会一直陪伴在你身边，这时你是爱他们的；当他们因为某件完全不合理的事情不让你出去玩儿时，这时你又会怨恨他们。而遗憾的是，保持这种关系会增加你的焦虑程度，让你待在家里时感到更大的压力。 虽然并没有一种神奇的方法能让你和父母建立起一种完全无压力的关系，不过，当你因为上一次与妈妈或爸爸的争吵而开始大发脾气时，有几点你要牢记在心。不要去臭骂为什么你没有出生在另一个家庭，不妨来读一读以下列出的关于不必担心你与家人的互动不尽如人意的五个理由，并提醒自己，你的父母可能并不像你所认为的那样糟糕。 你开始在独立于父母之外的情况下弄明白自己是一个怎样的人。 发掘你自己的个性是作为青少年的全部意义，而这不可避免地会导致你和父母之间产生一些摩擦。你一直在发生变化：发现新的兴趣，经历一些重大事件，弄清楚什么是你生命中真正重要的。而这种变化很大一部分便是开始离开你的父母，变得更加独立。当你逐渐远离他们的时候，你的父母却抓住你这个他们深爱的孩子不放，这当然会造成关系紧张！请记住，这一切都是成长过程中的一部分，这可以帮助你避免做出过度的反应。 你的父母只是想用对你最好的方式来养育你…… 即使看上去好像并不是这样。当你的父母非要让你取得好成绩，或者因为你晚上没有按照规定的时间回家而不准你出去玩儿时，你可能会心生怨恨，但请试着记住他们的出发点是什么。他们的职责是保护你，并努力确保你幸福。他们最终只是想用对你最好的方式来养育你，但这并不意味着你就会完全同意他们的要求！ 你们的关系最终会发生变化。 在你的青少年时代，很多事情都在发生变化。但幸运的是，一旦你离开家去上大学或者开始你的成年生活，你与父母的关系就会变得平和起来。当你经历了从童年对父母的依赖到成年后独立的种种艰难，你或许就能享受与父母之间的一种全新的关系了。 对于你正在经历的一切，你的父母懂的比你可能认为的要更多。 无论他们现在是多么的老土(别担心，我们都有令人尴尬的父母)，你的父母也曾青春年少过，也曾经历过许多和你目前正经历的同样的起起落落。对此非常了解的他们只是在努力帮你尽可能轻松地通过高中这趟过山车，哪怕他们的努力是在帮倒忙。 不管怎么说，他们永远都会是你的家人。 而家人便意味着没有人会被丢下或是遗忘。你也许并不会始终感激你的父母，但不要忘记他们是会一直陪伴在你身边的人。相信我们，他们真的爱你。 文章摘自：《新东方英语`中学生》杂志2016年12月号