【有文稿】结婚证设有效期，这婚你还结么？

LW: Marriage contracts have attracted a lot of online. Now, Wu You, I’m a little bit confused here, because as far as I was concerned, marriage is a contract. But, were talking about more than this now, something else. WY: The Chinese author Lu Guoping’s comment that marriage certificate should have an expiration of seven years has triggered hot debate online [LW: Interesting.] and the author is saying that marriage should have those kind of contract license. LW: It’s kind of like an exit clause where both parties kind of split amicably, like an exit, on the highway of marriage. BK: I think, well, I think the idea here of the clause isn’t so much that there’s a clause there but it’s, you know, okay, it’s seven years and then you have to renew, otherwise it automatically end. I think that’s [LW: I see] – Mexico City a few years ago, they decided they wanted to make sure newlyweds, you know, avoid, the quote un-quote hassle of divorce by giving them temporary marriage licenses, the idea that, okay, you get married, but it’s [a] temporary sort of thing, and if you want to keep going, you have to actually do something, you don’t just slide into being married and continuing being married, you have to agree again in some years time to stay married. LW: Now I think this is actually a pretty good idea. For a lot of things, when you get a license, like you have to get a car license, but before you get a license for your car you have to get a learner’s, there’s a temporary period where you can see if you’re cut out for this. Maybe it’s not a bad idea to have this kind of temporary arrangement to kind of figure it out. WY: Okay, Lincoln, so what if your girlfriend or your wife is asking you, so we have this kind of temporary license, and we agreed that we will have the contract, and then by the end of three years, probably I will dump you if you don’t behave well. Does this sound loving to you? LW: No – no one’s – that’s also, that, you know, that a marriage of seven years, or that a marriage of ten years, that it’s not necessarily a failure if it ends, you see what I mean? BK: Well that is an interesting idea, that… LW: That for ten years, these two people were together and they grew together and then they grew apart and then for some reason, that wasn’t what they wanted anymore. I’m coming off as very unromantic now – Wu You, now don’t roll your eyes at me like that. I’m just trying to be pragmatic. WY: Let’s see the nature of marriage. A vow during the wedding, and we will say until death tore us apart. You have the… LW: …rights and obligations. WY: You have the responsibility, and then after you were saying that shall we change the vow into death or a three year contract do us apart. LW: No. We can just say from death, or maybe until we just don’t like each other anymore? [Uproar] I don’t know, I don’t know. WY: If a husband and a wife choose to terminate a agreement after five years or three years, then simply move into different directions, is it fair to their kids? BK: That is another point. I would say that if you’re just two people without kids, then, again, it’s not good, but people generally should be allowed to what they want. If there’s kids though, I do think that you should really put extra thought. WY: And if you have this kind of contract thoughts, you shouldn’t have got married in the first place. What about moving in with boyfriend or girlfriend, and that’s it. What is the core reason for you to get married, right? LW: Yeah, that’s what I’m asking: why get married at all, if it’s only the logical next step? WY: And also I want to point out a unique situation in China; in the old days, most couples they were introduced by their parents. They haven’t met until their wedding day, so [LW: That happens in India and other civilizations], so why most of that marriage lasts, they haven’t got divorced is people are not even concerning about the divorce. And nowadays, it is their own freewill choice, I can totally understand. If you want to choose to have this kind of contract or so-called licenses temporarily you just directly do not get married. If you want to get married, go through the ordinary life. This kind of temporary marriage licenses, it shouldn’t exist at all. LW: Mm, something to keep in mind as we go forward on this day.