男人跟哥们泡吧能减压？

20160524ou 一中两外锵锵三人行 今日话题： 男人跟哥们泡吧 就能减压？ Lincoln: Now, scientists say that there might be a scientific reason behind boys’ nights out. Michael, maybe you can enlighten us a little bit. Michael: So this is a survey conducted by anthropologists at the University of Göttingen. They have proved, seemingly incontrovertibly, that men need to have a lads’ night out, and they did this by studying the behaviour of macaque, Barbary macaque monkeys, which proved that male bonding is a crucial method for creating a feeling of security and for reducing stress among male Barbary macaques. Levels of male stress hormone went up quite significantly when male macaques were with their partner or with other family members, and it went down when they were in a group simply with other males. Lincoln: Yoyo, what do you make of this? Yoyo: OK, it seems like if they’re simply talking about the macaques, the monkeys, I still remember when I was watching [the Discovery Channel] or all those kinds of documentaries, it showcased all the male monkeys, they stay together and they pick out the bugs on each other’s backs, and they just touch [each other’s] fur, and they will calm each other down, so does it mean that we still have human behaviour testing from monkeys? Michael: Well, I mean, you could sort of translate or transpose that to, then, a bunch of guys having a pint in the pub, but there’s a suggestion that lad culture has perhaps been unfairly maligned. Yoyo: What is the age when you are referring to the word “lad”? Michael: I suppose it’s the 20s. It’s the gap between adolescence and, I would say, full-blown adulthood, you know, when you’ve got kids and a mortgage and wife and car. [Yoyo: Simply, responsibility] Exactly, yeah, Lincoln: Quite understandably, because it’s quite important for a person’s development to not just go straight from being a teenager, or a very young adult, and go straight into having all of life’s responsibilities thrust upon you immediately, so this kind of latency period actually has some value. Yoyo: But the question is: do you really want to make a bridge between the two parts, or do you simply want to go back to [childhood]? Michael: That’s a very good question. I think you could argue that there’s a certain infantilization of adulthood now anyway. Lincoln: I do love playing video games every now and again with my friends. Now that I think about it and I am grown up, never – never going to stop doing that! Wu You, what about women? Yoyo: We do not actually have that infantilization of adulthood, because we stay forever young. For girls, we go out, and we go shopping together, while we give suggestions to each other about make-up, about dresses, and also we gossip about men, we always have different topics, and we have a nice dinner together, and then we go to KTV. Michael: See, this study is all about the fact that men need a nice time together, but I don’t see why you can’t apply that logic to women as well. Lincoln: 100 percent. Female time together is often much more constructive, because I have friends that I’ve known for years that I know nothing about. One of my best friends, who I’ve known for two years, I fairly recently found out that he has more than one sister. It’s something that you never really engage with people, necessarily. Yoyo: So you mean that you get together first of all because you want to relax, you want to [relieve] stress, but actually when you do get together, you didn’t talk about problems? [Lincoln: I think so] You’re avoiding problems! Lincoln: It’s Friday, you know, we all have our problems. I came here to forget mine, I didn’t come here to take on yours. Yoyo: Or do you think that men tend to save problems for themselves and solve it by themselves, instead of talking about it loudly with their friends? Michael: I definitely do that. Lincoln: Which is also not necessarily the best way to go about it, because it can all run together on you.