介绍:
Being an introvert is a bad thing, right? Well, a lot of people seem to think so, judging by the number of articles I’ve read about how to ―cure introversion. In response to these articles, I wrote The Introverts Strike Back, in which I argued that introverts can’t become extraverts, and they shouldn’t particularly want to.
However, I’m not here to debate whether it’s better to be an introvert to an extravert. The fact is, we all have to interact with both types of people every day. Regardless of which type you are, you can greatly improve your relationships by learning to get along better with people of the other type. Here are some tips for getting started. For Introverts:
*Indicate to others when you’re busy.
When an extravert sees you reading, writing, or maybe just thinking, he might assume that the only reason you are doing this is because you don’t have someone to talk to. So he thinks he’s doing you a favor by striking up a conversation, when he’s actually interrupting.
To prevent this, be sure to give an indication that you’re in the middle of something and don’t want to socialise right now. This can be a visual sign or verbal.
I know one person who tended to get a lot of visitors at work, and while he was actually an extravert, the frequent visits were slowing him down too much. He put a sign on his door saying "If I don’t make eye contact or respond to you, I apologize. I’m not trying to be rude, I just have a lot of work to do. Thank you for understanding" While I don’t think many people need to go that far, it certainly worked! 待续
