导入语:
大家好,欢迎收听今天的里昂夜读,我是里昂。
不知道你是否也和我有同样的困扰,感觉自己每天都被困在一个小小的格子间,每天做着千篇一律的工作,像《盗梦空间》里那枚永远都停不下来的陀螺,躁动的心只想逃离,奔向美丽的远方获得新鲜空气。
于是,你利用假期开始旅行。因为你说你想出去看看。每一次旅行结束,卸下疲惫的你,又重新回到苍白的现实生活中。
然后你又一次在铺天盖地的“不去旅行就会憋死”的媒体论调中迷失,沉沦在网上分享旅行故事的驴友和朋友圈里精美的图片所设置的“美丽陷阱”里,想象着自己也能充满勇气地“说走就走”,并颓然地坐在办公室里或者教室里,望着窗外城市特有的灰白天空灵魂出窍。
我的朋友phoebe本科一毕业就去gap year了,她告诉我朝九晚五的日子不是她想要的生活。她觉得自己只有在gap year的那一年才体会到了真正的自由。但在我看来,她显然误会了“自由”的定义。旅行就像是精神鸦片,当虚伪的幻象结束,她只会再次掉进无数信用卡账单、错过升职机会的窘境里。她所谓的自由,是要用更多的不自由来填补。
“辞职旅行”、“间隔年”、“在路上”……这些词汇听起来美好而又文艺,但“说走就走”,终究只是个美好的愿景,谁都没办法真正做到“说走就走”。
世界上没有包治百病的良药,辞职去旅行也不是解决你人生问题的唯一途径。想要离开自己的舒适区,想要改变生活的现状,并不是辞职或者一场旅行就能解决的。充实自己的内心,从小事一点一点做起,人生真正掌控在自己的手指尖,你才知道,关于自由和生活的答案,其实一直都在你的心里。
This Is What Leaving Your Comfort Zone REALLY Is Because It’s Not Just Quitting Your 9-5 And Traveling
想要真正地离开你的舒适区?光是辞职和旅行解决不了什么!
We often adopt the notion that for change to be valid, it must always be grand. We burden ourselves with the expectation that we must turn our lives around overnight. We disregard the “little” things that we can do and instead choose to focus on the same go big or go home mentality that frankly keeps us stuck in our mundane ways more often than we care to admit.
我们会经常接收到这样的观念:想要有效改变现状,必须要有很宏伟盛大的计划。我们期望生活能够在一夜之间就能发生翻天覆地的变化。我们常会忽略那些我们可以做到的“小事”,而选择抱着“要么做大要么回家”的心态,即使囿于平庸也不愿承认。
Because breaking out of your comfort zone is not just making a drastic change and wishing for the best.
因为打破舒适区不是做出巨大改变和祈祷许愿就能达成的。
It’s accepting that comfort is just another name we give to the things that protect us from fear. Settling for a career that doesn’t make us happy often stems from the fear of failing to find one that does.
“舒适”其实只是我们保护自己免受恐惧的另一个名字,解决了工作问题也许不会让我们很开心,那是因为这种感觉来源于你或许会找不到工作的恐惧。
Being afraid of getting hurt once again can persuade us to maintain our self-sabotaging (英 ['sæbətɑːʒ] 美 [,sæbə'tɑʒ]) habits that push away the chance of finding the people, places, or things we truly love.
害怕再次受到伤害的人,会说服自己自暴自弃,推开能够找寻到真爱的人、地点、事物的机会。
And while it is true that the only way to get over our fears is to face them; this transformation won’t happen overnight if we don’t first take the time to break out of our mental traps that convince us that finding freedom is an all or nothing matter.
虽然克服恐惧的唯一方法就是面对它,但如果我们不花时间去摆脱那些让我们相信“自由是全或无”的心理陷阱,那么这种转变也无法在一夜之间发生。
So, do the “little” things because breaking out of your comfort zone and living your best life has everything to do with the small steps you take along the way.
所以,从“小”事做起,因为想要打破舒适区、过上美好的生活,与一路上你走的每一小步都息息相关。
It’s choosing to slow down when the world tells you to keep up; giving yourself time to make decisions instead of jumping into the next job opportunity or relationship that seems like the “most logical” choice.
当整个世界都告诉你要跟上脚步的时候,放慢步调,给自己时间再去做决定,而不是一下子就跳入下一个看似“最合乎逻辑”的工作机会。
It’s writing or singing or painting your heart out even if you have no intention to share your art; it’s creating for your sanity.
即使你无意分享你的作品,也要写作、唱歌,绘出你的心境,它因你的心智而被创造。
It’s practicing a little more honesty every day; not only with others but also with yourself.
每天都要练习诚实,不仅对待他人,同时对你自己。
Asking questions. Listening without needing to respond. Focusing on being happy in your presence alone.
提问题。不要求回应,学会倾听,专注而不需要回应。即使独自一人也要专注快乐。
It’s investing your time in creating blueprints instead of escape routes; because you can quit your job on a whim or book a 30-day cruise but the answer to obtaining true freedom and creating the life you’ve always wanted has resided within you all along.
投入时间来创造蓝图而不是逃生路线,因为你可以一时兴起地辞掉工作或来一场30天的游轮之行,但想要获得真正自由和想要的生活,答案始终只在你心。
结束语:
对自由的真正向往,不应该是想做什么就可以做什么
而是,想不做什么就可以不做什么
身体困于案牍,心灵放飞自由的感觉也不错
抛开说走就走的旅行
你都有哪些给自己的放松的方式?
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