Choose your role models with care.

CHOOSE YOUR ROLE MODELS WITH CARE There is nothing wrong with being thoughtful and concerned about the feelings and reactions of others toward you and your choices. What is silly and self-defeating however, is for you to allow yourself to be inordinately influenced by the fleeting opinions of people whose regard and respect is of no concern or value to you. If you’ve been raised with destructive criticism, you can easily slip into the trap of organizing your life around trying to gain the approval, or escape the disapproval of people you don’t even know or care about. When you select admirable people to look up to, you actually connect at an unconscious level with a higher power that will then give you guidance and insight. You will experience a deep inner knowing of exactly the right thing to do or say. 备注：如英美单词读法不同，则按顺序附有英、美两种音标；如读法相同，则只附一种音标。 thoughtful [ˈθɔːtfl] adj. 深思的；体贴的；关切的 reaction [riˈækʃn] n. 反应；回应 self-defeating [ˌself dɪˈfiːtɪŋ] adj. 事与愿违的；适得其反的；弄巧成拙的 inordinately [ɪnˈɔːdɪnətli; ɪnˈɔːrdɪnətli] adv. 无度地 fleeting [ˈfliːtɪŋ] adj. 飞逝的；短暂的；转瞬即逝的 regard [rɪˈɡɑːrd] n. 尊敬，尊重；关心，关注 vt. 看待，把……视为 destructive [dɪˈstrʌktɪv] adj. 破坏性的；毁灭性的 criticism [ˈkrɪtɪsɪzəm] n. 批评；批判 slip [slɪp] vi. 滑倒；溜走；价值降低 v. 悄悄地做 trap [træp] n. 陷阱，圈套；困境 vt. 设陷阱捕捉；收集，保存 approval [əˈpruːvl] n. 批准；赞成；认可 disapproval [ˌdɪsəˈpruːvl] n. 不赞成；反对 admirable [ˈædmərəbl] adj. 令人钦佩的；值得赞赏的 unconscious [ʌnˈkɒnʃəs; ʌnˈkɑːnʃəs] adj. 无意识的；失去知觉的 insight [ˈɪnsaɪt] n. 洞察力；领悟 There is nothing wrong with … ……并没有错。 be inordinately influenced by … 被……过度影响 fleeting opinion 转瞬即逝的意见 regard and respect 关注和重视 be raised with… 被……抚养长大 slip into the trap 滑入陷阱 look up to 仰慕 用心选择你的榜样 关切和担心他人对你和你的选择的感受和反应，这并没有错。不过对你来说，愚蠢和适得其反的是：有些人关注什么对你无关紧要，可你却偏偏让自己被这些人短暂的看法过度影响。如果你从小在破坏性批判中长大，你就很容易跌进这样一个陷阱：安排自己的生活，试图获得别人的认可，或者避免别人的不认可，即使那些人你根本就不认识或不关心。 当你选择可敬的人去仰慕的时候，你实际上是在一个无意识的层面上与一个更高的力量联系在一起，然后这个力量会给你指引和洞察力。你将体验到一种深刻的内在认知，知道自己该做什么或说什么。